I have just been reading an interesting article over on Jezebel by Ronan, who originally posted it over on The Line.  The question at the centre of the post was how sex blogging can or cannot be considered consensual–or whether this is even an important question to consider.  From the post:

“But how could I write on a blog, about consent of all things, personal details about MY sex life, which of course involve other people? That I’d share without their knowledge or consent? Or course I won’t use their names, but a hookup is (or should be) built on a foundation of trust and communication. Part of that is the assumption (and hope) that one party won’t share private details with everyone they know or go bragging to a vast amount of people – which is essentially what I would be doing by sharing it here. Outside of writing on a blog, in my real life, I want to be open with the people around me – especially the ones I’m sleeping with.”

How can I talk about my sexual experiences and not cross the line?”

This is a topic that really resonates with me because while I’ve been a sex toys blogger for more than a couple of years now, I have always purposefully avoided having my blog focus too much on my personal life.  I have several reasons for this, ranging from the fact that I think it can be incredibly boring to read about someone else’s idea of what is sexy when you’re just wanting to find out if the newest vibrator is worth buying to the fact that I think that it’s a bit unethical–not to mention unsavoury–to write about people who don’t know they’re being written about.

Writing about one’s sexual exploits is incredibly easy and it can be rewarding in the short-term.  If you write about what you like, especially if you’re an attractive woman, you’re likely to get a nice handful of men who will stop by and applaud you for your comments.  But what long term value is there?  Does writing about what you do in the bedroom make you more of an expert when someone needs advice?  Does it make you less trustworthy in your personal life if the people around you know they might be written about in serious detail–for the random public to judge–as soon as their back is turned?

For the time being at least, I wouldn’t look to my blog to give you much titillation.  I figure that if you’re looking to be turned on, there are roughly a billion places online to turn to which will give you a thrill.  My blog will focus on sexual issues, advice, news, and maybe a few bits of this-and-that which don’t fit into any other category.  My sexual partners can breathe a sigh of relief for the moment.